What to do?

Now that Adam is back,I think Thoughts & Opinions will be back in action soon.Here’s my first return post in here.Actually I wanted to put it up on my own blog but sadly it’s become way too public for this post.There are certain friends who happen to know the URL and I don’t really want them to read this.Actually thinking,there isn’t any thought or opinion in this post but it’s the best I can come up with right now.

It’s been a week since school started and it’s my last year in school because by next year,I would be in college.It’s also the most critical year as people say because I have to give a number of entrance exams for entering into the elite institutes.I’m just building the platform for the story here so don’t run away thinking it’s about studies and school.So since I have to give these entrance exams,I was made to join a coaching centre which specializes in these in addition to school.I studied there last year as well.Now comes the real deal..

Last year,I used to really like one girl who also used to study here.You know how we guys are so I guess you’ll understand that we like a new girl almost every month.Anyway this girl,she was really pretty and stuff and I thought she seemed cool even though I never talked to her.There was also my best friend who’s this cool dude and all.It’s funny but we always like the same women and he being cool gets away with them all while I sit back and sulk.It’s happened atleast twice now and I feel like killing him sometimes.Anyhow I’d never do that because we’ve had good times together.So yeah,this girl was really popular and had atleast 6 guys behind her.She did chat a lot with one of them and the particular guy thought he was real lucky.However one fine day,she stopped talking to him altogether perhaps because something happened.I never really asked anyone because I didn’t want to be nosy in case she’d get to know.So now that she was “single” again,my friend started making his moves and by the end of the year,she was almost totally into him trying to strike conversations with him and he’d almost ignore her at times.I know he knew I was jealous and he’d always give me detailed descriptions of the conversations they had and I hated him for that.The guy always gets the best girls and then leaves them alone after sometime and they still like him madly.I don’t understand the logic or how he does it.I guess the capability to be able to flirt comes naturally and God totally forgot that part when he was making me.

Anyway,I put that year behind and went back to the classes.My best friend wasn’t there with me this time because he’s going to another city apparently because he doesn’t want to be under his parent’s supervision.I feel scared to think what all he’ll do to the girls in the new city lol.So I went back and on the first day scanned the crowd around me for potential friends and hot girls.Every guy is the same so don’t you dare judge me.There was one girl who looked nice.But she came in with a guy.They come together each morning,go back together too.Either he’s her brother or he’s the boyfriend because he keeps sticking to her all the time.He always sits on the bench exactly ahead of her and they keep passing each other smiles and I as usual,keep sulking.I don’t know what I should do now.I don’t want to use a cheesy pick up line because a) it’s been only three days since I first saw her. b) there’s already that guy and there’s chance that he’d smack me right in the face and it won’t matter if he’s the brother or the boyfriend,I’d get kicked anyway and c) because she seems the kind that’d give me a brutal and witty reply much like the one’s Sha has listed here.I don’t know what to do and even if you suggest anything,I’d probably not do it because I’m way too paranoid and shy.Not everyone gets to be a flirt after all.This world would be incomplete without losers like me!

I guess all that was pretty lame but well,atleast it’s something! It’s time for you guys to make your comeback posts now and I hope you’ll do better than me ūüėČ

Where’s the love?

So, a debate upon the divorce rate of today’s society shall we?

In western society, it is approximately 60% and rising. Compared to say, 50 years ago, this has risen dramatically. However, several factors influence these statistics which I shall elaborate on.

If we ask our parents, or even our parents’ parents, it was not uncommon to get married at a young age and have children. People gossiped, and people spoke about each other – usually more than eager to hear all the negative details. A single mother was frowned upon, while divorce was extremely untraditional. Besides, males were prodominately the income providers, and woman had well, not a rare opportunity to finding work, but in many ways, they were considered “2nd citizens” compared to males, and thus, rarely earned more income than a male. The tides are changing however, as more and more human rights tries to bridge the differences aside and live as equals, males and females.

My inquiry then, if today’s society was exactly the same as 50 to 100 years ago, would the divorce rate be so high? Single mothers and divorce seems a common practice nowadays. If I went to 10 weddings this year, I could say, by statistics, that 6 of them would fail. So, what exactly is it, that is causing such contention within relationships?

My theory, is that people seem to be a little more foolish. Let us take the analogy of sex. It’s almost unheard of for a relationship NOT to be sexually active before they’re married. In many cases, sexual intercourse is used as the “ice breaker” within a relationship, allowing both parties to determine if they want to progress in a relationship. Let me explain why this is an absoluetely deplorable method of choosing a partner. If sex is initiated extemely early within the relationship, then you are truly only exploring the physical aspect of the relationship – the pure relief that seemingly a lot of people “need” in today’s age. Clearly, in such a short time where two individuals are already exploring the physical aspect, it is not enough to explore the person on an emotional, or even spiritual level. A lot of people will argue, that the chemical balances within our bodies is what attracts us to other humans. While this is true, who said you cannot get to KNOW the person first? People seem to crave it, want it so bad that they perceive they need it, similar or exactly to an addiction. If this is the case, that one must relieve him or herself at regular intervals, then simply, they are no more then mere animals, albiet they might know their a b c’s.

Now, the divorce rate query.¬† It seems either people are rushing into these things too early when they hardly even know the other person, or perhaps, they simply do not want to try and mend the relationship when the going gets tough. Here is my reasoning for the latter; We live in a microwave, tv, fast food age of if it’s not ready within minutes, we don’t want it. We seem to want everything in the now, and getting up to get the tv remote or change the channel on the tv is an absoluete chore, not even worth getting up that we’d rather watch whatever is on our one way love conversation destroyer. I can remember on several instances being in a KFC line, and the checkout operator saying there will be a 3 minute wait on the chicken. I couldn’t believe how mad the man in front of me got, complaining about the state of the company, and how they don’t live up to their customer’s needs and various other childish arguments.

It seems if it doesn’t work in today’s age, we can simply get a new one. Hmmm, fridge broken? Meh, I’m not even going to BOTHER open it up and spend hours upon to try and fix it. Let’s just get a new one. Hmmm, my tv is only 80cm, I really need a 112 plamsa screen. Hmmm, my car only goes to 100k/h in 7 seconds, I definetly need a faster one.

We’ve all become such slaves to our materialistic objects and belief that money can make us happy.¬† People seem to worship money as a God, where all I hear in my workplace is various careers on how to make more money, or people doing university degrees not for the knowledge, but for the career with the big bucks. In several cases, I know some people completely disliking their university degrees, but in the end, they’ll be filthy rich and who cares right? Ah, well I’m one who believes all the actions in this life are going to affect one’s afterlife. It’ll all come crashing down when people’s materialistic objects and money mean nothing at all.

Hence, the high divorce rate, if it’s broken, throw it out, as there’s “plenty more fish in the sea.” I constantly see people saying they’re “in love.” While it’s more common within the younger generation, I do see a substantial amount of older people being fooled with the emotion they feel is love, when it is purely nothing more than lust – eye candy of the physical aspect. The foolishness is rampant, with the majority of western society shackled to their evil greed and cold shoulders.

New MySpace Laws . . . Pfft

“If your 14 or 15, for example, on our site you can no longer be contacted by anyone who’s over the age of 18 unless they¬†know who you are.” Hemanshu Nigam, Vice President of MySpace Security.

Really, is this going to work ? Its great that MySpace owners are finally going to do something about the Security for the 87 million members that are currently using the Blog site.

Its funny. Only yesterday i posted an article MySpace, Access To All? and today i fell into an article about MySpace security.

The new law that is being introduced next week is that nobody can contact you unless they know who you are, this means they know your first AND last name or know your email address, this law is being used to protect the youth of today.

My question is this, is it that hard to find out somebody’s name or anybody’s email address? Im not too sure if this ‘New Law’ is going to work to the effect MySpace owners are hoping for, as i said its great their trying, but they’re not going far enough.

Just this week MySpace was hit with a 30 million dollar lawsuit after a 14 year old girl was assaulted by a 19 year old male. The two first met on MySpace and a few weeks later met in person. To top of the argument the girl involved was believed to have lied about her age, so the fact that anybody can lie about their ages is one of the major issues that MySpace owners need to attend to. It is agreed that MySpace security measures fall way short of the line.

View the whole story at CBS News and please leave your comments here.

MySpace, Access To All Information?

“It blew me away” where the words coming from a 13 year old girls mother, when she discovered that her daughter had a Blog on the commonly known site MySpace.

To me it seems that the MySpace site is starting to get out of hand. It firstly came to my attention when i was reading an article called ‘MySpace pages of Werribee scumbag gang members’, when i was shocked. I couldnt believe it.

Marcy, the mother of the 13 year old girl had formed her own account to track her daughter personal myspace blog. To her disbelief she found all her daughters personal details, Address, Contact Numbers, School details and even Photos.

With society today poeple have learnt not to give out personal details over the internet as they could be used against them. In this case the topic is a 13 year old girl.

The mother sat her daughter down and said ‘Do you realize how inappropriate and how dangerous this is?’, after she had seen her daughters¬†friends contact details and attached where photos of themselves with “There Butts in the air, with their thongs sticking out of it. They squeeze there elbows together to make there boobs look bigger”.

With the amount of wierdos out there, prime example is the Werribee scumbag gang members. Its unbelievable how easy it is to get personal details out of people just over the internet, and how frightening it could be if this type of information gets into the wrong hands. Source, Bob Sullivan РCorrespondent MSNBC.

To get the full story visit msnbc and please leave your thoughts on the topic here. This is a very interesting topic and would love to no what you think.

12 Boys Abusing A Girl, Werribee

So, today a country was shocked at the despicable and abhorrent acts all done by a
group of teenagers residing in the western suburbs. For our friends joining us who haven’t
heard of this, it involved the acts of 12 teenage boys throwing a cup of urine onto a girl,
burning her hair 3 times (including once with an aerosol can and a lighter), and allegedly
forcing her to commit a sex act on a mentally undeveloped 17 year old girl.

 

Now, for my friends who are aware of the story, let me elaborate on my point of view, and hopefully why such a degrading act came to pass.

 

I’m sure we’d all read the story and say “That’s so terrible, and I feel so sorry for
that girl.” Precisely how I feel. But then, usually the next line I hear is “If I ever
found those kids I’d beat the absoluete daylight out of them” – usually that line
has a lot more expletives in it.

 

So, who’s to blame? I have no doubt that the boys knew what they were doing, and how
they were tormenting this girl. I could see a lot of people however, blaming solely on
the parents. A lot would also mock this, with the retort that the kids are old enough
to know better. Perhaps the best way to address this debate is by presenting both sides
of the argument, and then I shall give my 2 cents on the matter.

 

We hear all the time of parents being to blame for their child’s actions, morales and
outlook on life. I hear parents being positively crucified for letting young ‘Johnny’ hang
out with that boy, touch that drink or start smoking. Is it really the parents fault though?
Are they held accountable for their child’s actions and ethics? We all know from an early
age that it is absoluetely crucial for the role of active parent’s in their lives from
an early age, and neglectment has been linked to multiple disorders and a defensive mechanism that makes emotional attachment’s for the individual harder than the norm. While this isn’t always the case, I firmly believe a corrolation to be present with a lack of parental role at any early age for the child and several problems associated later in life. Some of these may include self esteem issues, including depression, and my belief of many more. Although, the latter of many more problems is also linked to another factor which I will elaborate on my little input when we are finished trying to analyse each situation.

 

So, what’s the answer though? Should we discipline today’s youths moreso? Result back in the old ways of capital punishment? Does hitting someone invoke love and a sense of understanding in them? Or result the child in forming a fear at any early age of when you do something bad, physically painful memories are recalled? Does fear drive them? Or love in that scenario?

 

Should we adopt a more liberal view point, where we let the child make his/her own decisions, while not executing any physical punishment at all, and try to make the child make the independent decisions and hopefully they will realise the error of their ways. So, if Johhny wants to smoke that cigarette, should we tell him the dangers of smoking yet condone the acts by allowing him to smoke in the backyard, for you would rather him smoke at home rather than behind your back? However, perhaps I have digressed, considering we are speaking about the 12 boys who committed such an act. Although, I’m not entirely sure about their parental background, I did hear of two parents apparently laughing at the acts their child done when they received word via the media about it. Once again, are the parents to blame here?

 

Or, maybe we need the medium here, of to allow some physical discipline, but not all the time. Hmmm, I do recall a story of hearing a woman being up on child abuse charges though because of smacking her child in open public. Also, the question rises, is how much physical discipline should we administer? Should we completely move away from the dark days of hitting our child when they done something wrong?

 

Now, let us flip the coin. Are the individuals entirely to blame? I have heard of cases where the parents seemed to have disciplined their child, in a loving way, and brought up in an environment ideal to most. However, how was it that this person somehow committed such an deplorable act? Can we still crucify the parents when they seemed to have done all they can? Or perhaps we should try and find an exploit, pin point a timeline and see if we can find something to dig at. The boys in this case (while I’m not entirely sure of their age) seemed to be around 15 or 16. Is this an acceptable age for them to realise their actions? By terms of law yes, and I would assume most of, if not all of us would agree too. So, if it the boys fault, and solely their fault, where exactly did they fall off the bandwagon? Where exactly, have these acts come by? Or perhaps it’s just “boys will be boys?” But if that was the case, why wouldn’t other boys act in the same manner? Surely these acts and senseless brutality has HAD to come from
somewhere. Where, is the answer we all seem to be looking for. Ah, but parents are quick
to stick up for their child, in a lot of cases, blaming their friends being a bad influence,
or external influences such as perhaps the teachers, their schools, some even themselves or home lives. The child simply doesn’t gather those morales from nowhere. They come from a place, where that is, could be a multitude of factors, but my two cents will hopefully clarify this.

 

So, now onto my two cents. While we could blame one party solely, and look at only these
influences, I believe we are all missing the massive picture. Factors such as the media, society, our background, parental guidance, friends and family, down to your birth order can determine events in life. Let me elaborate.

 

I hear a case of a boy taking his camera phone into school, and the teacher had confiscated it, and there was a community uproar on the state of kids, restricting their access, and various other issues which seemed to be off target. My question: Are we blind? Everyday I cannot walk into a supermarket with some model seductively posted on a wall of magazines, insinutating the physical desire sex. I see billboards, media publishments, sales representatives trying to lure me by flirtiously trying to sell me something. I see TV shows such as “Sex in the City” potraying that sex is cool, sex is the thing to do, and if you’re not doing it, you must be a complete loser. The word “Virgin” seems to be an embarrasing word among the youths today – I should know, as I’m only 20 years of age. I constantly hear of others speaking about their sexual encounters and various ‘pick ups.’ Are the children truly to blame when society is spilling out this junk to them 24 hours a day? Ironic that societies morales change over time. 50 years ago homosexuality was considered a satantic commitment, while today it is a widely accepted practice. I wonder what 100 years will bring for us? Married with 3 wives? The laws are static, but people become more corrupted as time unfolds.

 

So, back to our story of the boys. The penetrating question. Who’s to blame? I definetly agree that their parents play a massive role in their development. However, they are not totally to blame. Provided they have tried to the best of their ability to make their child feel supported, loved and guided them in the right ethics and choices they should make in life, how we can we possibly hold them accountable? However, of course the child, or young adolescent has a conscience too – and it is acceptable to say that they should know better. But, I have also seen time and time again, including myself, to be swayed and corrupted by those undesirable bullies or “friends” at school. The conformity of peer pressure is massive. The group of friends that a child interacts with will have a massive impact on their behaviour – perhaps in some cases more than the parents strong teachings of what and what not to do. But no high school teen like’s a “moma’s boy”, and I see constantly young teens trying to fit into a group. Certain people seem to have the cool status, usually the rebellious type (even though they may be quite intelligent). Temptations and risks of doing something completely out of an individual’s character is very real, especially in the small confinements of the high school, where there is no escape, and I don’t care what anyone says, but the teachers really are powerless. If the
individual tells the teacher of a bullying, sure, the teacher will confront the student, give
him a detention and in many cases, be off with it. In some cases, the parents will be called,
but a lot of the times those parents to be the ones condoning the demmoral acts of their child –

 

So, in essence, it comes like this. Those faulty parents who failed to raise their child
properly, resulting in that child to be rebellious, depressed, and suffering from self esteem
issues is now unleashed within the high school, ready to mix and bully other kids to make
himself feel better about life by gaining power over others. So, even though young Billy
on the other hand was raised good, young Timmy who doesn’t give a damn about life because his folks didn’t give a damn about him could very well manipulate (usually through physical intimidation) young Billy. Now, in the scenario that Billy tells the teacher, Timmy gets a detention, and do you think Timmy really cares about this? Do you think someone who has given up on everything care about staying back after school for an hour? Granted, he probably won’t even go – What’s worse, is he’ll get more mad. He’s not going to suddenly become enlightened in the error of his ways through a miraculous stare-at-the-wall for an hour after school. In fact, usually these types have a lot of friends, or well, similiar friends who’ve come together because of their negative energy towards, well life. I’ve seen this at school. In fact, I used to be like that Timmy there. Where did it come from? Falling in with a bad group of friends. My childhood was OK. Some parts were a still patchy, but overall, the best was done considering the circumstances. However, in high school I fell in with the “cool” group, or at least I tried to. As a result, I started smoking, became more rebellious, drank alcohol every weekend (Started at approximately 15), smoked marijuana, and I distintively remember wanting always to hurt someone, to try and empower myself. While this could be argued from
a neglect in my childhood from not my mother, but another source, I strongly believe those events wouldn’t of occured if I had not fell in with those group of “friends.”

 

Now thirdly, I perceive society as a problem. If a child at an early age is suscepted inevitably to the acting of how other people behave, or the things in society which seem to contradict what our parents are trying to teach us, how can the lessons of our parents hold any form of a foundation? For example, our parents may tell us not to drink because it’s unhealthy. However, what if a young child (I mention the word young because it is crucial at an early age of the forming of one’s concept and belief on life) see’s a billboard or a flurry of TV commericals with a group of people drinking their bottles of whiskey, laughing and seemingly having the best of time? Now, this is just a minor example, but if you see we’re constantly bombarbed as a society with all this corrution, media, lies, threats of war, other’s opinions and newspapers swaying everyone into chaos, how can this not affect us?

 

Can people screaming and yelling in road rage while movies at the local cinema in a new “Kill-Em-All with my Single Uzi” premiers. Hurting someone seems to be classified as something cool to do nowadays. The movie “Jack-Ass” serves to an audience to say that it’s funny to demolish homes and act like complete primitives. I don’t think I can ever board a train without a youth behind me telling me how he “smashed” some guy at a party because he was “Looking at meh Mrs”. Where is all the anger and hatred boiling from? Parents? Themselves? Kids at school? Society? The media?
All of these answers are correct, and perhaps quite a few more, but those seem to be the main ones that ring the bells in my mind.

 

Like I mentioned, I cannot walk into a supermarket without seeing some model posing her “perfect” body, with all these magazines and tips and tricks on diets, what to eat and how to live life, be cool, get lots of sex and get in fashion – otherwise, you MUST be a loser. May I remind everyone that anerexia has increased dramatically within the last 10 years? Should I even open up pandora’s box on various other depressive related disorders, crime rate and suicides on the rise? I can’t walk down the street without someone begging me to buy some product I haven’t heard of, or come home and sit down without receiving a telephone call with the first words “You’ve just won a new Nokia phone and a holiday! Congratulations. Now all you have to do is buy this and this
and that, oh and sign here.” Door knockers trying to sell me foxtel for the 50th time, TV
flooding our minds with all this pathetic advertising, while governments debate like an endless sea trying to back scratch commercial corporations while the media feed us these complete and utter lies all to keep the good citizens ignorant while our world plummets into chaos. You may be thinking that I’m just a pessemist, but I shall ask you this question:

 

If you were to answer, if the world was getting better or worse as time unfolds, which
would it be? Now think of why your answer is that way.